You know I have my own family issues (and actually home life has gotten a bit worse lately but I haven't found the time to properly document it) so I don't need to go into it, but I just wanted to let you know that I've read this. I know how it feels to just want to know that people are still reading when you talk about something important to you.
The moment when you were talking about your ipod but didn't even finish made me think of my mother so much. It seems to be happening more and more that people in this house, mainly her, just talk over each other and don't actually LISTEN. The amount of times she asks me a question and never listens to the answer. When I came home from the convention this weekend she said she wanted to hear about it (even though it's not her thing) but after only a few sentences she got distracted and I had to keep pulling her attention back to me which just made it feel pointless as she wasn't instersted anyway. She's proud of me for stuff but hardly ever lets me finish talking before moving on to something else.
It's funny you should post this today as I was just talking to my friend Macauly at the gym this morning about his mother. He's 29 but looks more like he's 20 and has always been younger than his years. I knew him in college and now he refers to him then as "immature" but I don't think that's right at all. He is/was just akward socially but one of the most caring people I know. (He's delt with my crying on the treadmil a few times when talking about getting over my stuff recently, even this morning, so he's really been there for me.) Anyway, from what I've heard today it's no wonder he has some social issues. For example, he left home when he was 16 because his stepdad was beating him. He's told me before that his mother is a shoppaholic and just spends money on things she doesn't need then moans she has none. I heard the extent of that today when he told me he's just had new windows fitted in his flat and the fitters left loads of mess. His mum turned up for a visit and said 'oh I'll help you clean up' but once she did so she then asked him for £20 for helping. WTF?! She's also told him he needs to pay for Christmas dinner, for everyone. And if he doesn't do that then "don't bother coming 'round." He loves his mother and doesn't want to be in his flat alone on Christmas but he knows that's not right. She's been saying he needs to "support the family" and he said quite rightly that he's 29 and lives on his own, he doesn't need to do that anymore. Then she calls him a bad son. His (American) boyfriend is telling him to cut his family out of his life and they've been having arguments over it because as right as his boy is, it's not that easy.
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Date: 2010-12-02 12:11 am (UTC)The moment when you were talking about your ipod but didn't even finish made me think of my mother so much. It seems to be happening more and more that people in this house, mainly her, just talk over each other and don't actually LISTEN. The amount of times she asks me a question and never listens to the answer. When I came home from the convention this weekend she said she wanted to hear about it (even though it's not her thing) but after only a few sentences she got distracted and I had to keep pulling her attention back to me which just made it feel pointless as she wasn't instersted anyway. She's proud of me for stuff but hardly ever lets me finish talking before moving on to something else.
It's funny you should post this today as I was just talking to my friend Macauly at the gym this morning about his mother. He's 29 but looks more like he's 20 and has always been younger than his years. I knew him in college and now he refers to him then as "immature" but I don't think that's right at all. He is/was just akward socially but one of the most caring people I know. (He's delt with my crying on the treadmil a few times when talking about getting over my stuff recently, even this morning, so he's really been there for me.)
Anyway, from what I've heard today it's no wonder he has some social issues.
For example, he left home when he was 16 because his stepdad was beating him. He's told me before that his mother is a shoppaholic and just spends money on things she doesn't need then moans she has none. I heard the extent of that today when he told me he's just had new windows fitted in his flat and the fitters left loads of mess. His mum turned up for a visit and said 'oh I'll help you clean up' but once she did so she then asked him for £20 for helping. WTF?!
She's also told him he needs to pay for Christmas dinner, for everyone. And if he doesn't do that then "don't bother coming 'round." He loves his mother and doesn't want to be in his flat alone on Christmas but he knows that's not right. She's been saying he needs to "support the family" and he said quite rightly that he's 29 and lives on his own, he doesn't need to do that anymore. Then she calls him a bad son. His (American) boyfriend is telling him to cut his family out of his life and they've been having arguments over it because as right as his boy is, it's not that easy.
*Sigh* Families.